Self-Care Is Sexy

how orgasms can help with endo cramps

Valentine’s Day is all about love, pleasure, and indulging in the things that make you feel good—so let’s talk about one of the most underrated forms of self-care: orgasms. For those of us with endometriosis, they’re not just fun; they’re a surprisingly effective way to manage pain.

The Science of Feeling Good

Living with endometriosis often means constantly searching for new ways to ease the pain. Heating pads, bubble baths, meds… all the classics. But orgasms? They deserve a top spot on the list.

Here’s why:

• Feel-Good Hormones: During an orgasm, your body releases oxytocin and endorphins—nature’s painkillers. These hormones help relax your body and calm those relentless cramps.

• Increased Blood Flow: The muscle contractions of an orgasm boost blood flow to your pelvic area, easing that heavy, congested feeling that endo brings.

• Stress Relief: Endo is tough, and stress only makes it worse. Orgasms lower cortisol levels (your stress hormone) and leave you feeling relaxed, which can help with both pain and your overall mood.

So, while heart-shaped chocolates and roses are lovely, there’s something to be said for a little extra TLC in the form of pleasure.

My Journey to Adding Orgasms to My Endo Toolkit

I’ll be honest—when I first heard about using orgasms to help with cramps, I wasn’t convinced. Who’s in the mood when the pain is at a 10, right? But one day, after cycling through all my usual remedies with no relief, I decided to give it a try. Spoiler: it worked.

The relief wasn’t instant, but it was noticeable. My body felt looser, my cramps eased, and I was able to get back to living my life. Now, orgasms are officially part of my endo survival kit—alongside my trusty heating pad and herbal teas.

This Valentine’s Day, Celebrate You

Endometriosis can make you feel like your body isn’t your own so Valentine’s Day is a great time to remember that pleasure is a powerful form of self-care.

Orgasms are a reminder that your body can bring you joy, comfort, and relief. Whether you’re single, in a relationship, or somewhere in between, take this Valentine’s Day to indulge in the kind of love that starts with you.

You deserve to feel good, to prioritize yourself, and to rewrite the narrative around pleasure and pain. So grab that heating pad and your favorite toy (or partner), and show yourself some love this February.

Let’s Keep the Conversation Going

Have you tried using orgasms to help with your endometriosis symptoms? I’d love to hear your thoughts—because the more we talk about this, the more we normalize it for everyone. Let’s make self-care sexy, not just on Valentine’s Day, but every day.